I discriminate.
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hoveringsombreroNormally I don't even notice, aside from whether I find someone attractive or not, things like colouring and weight, with two ridiculously glaring exceptions in which I have already made assumptions about you before you've said two words.
If you're VERY white, I don't mean skin colour necessarily, I'm very pale but don't consider myself whitewhite. I mean light eyes and (naturally)light hair. If you're naturally blonde, I'm automatically assuming that you're stupid. Especially if you're a guy. If you have very light eyes I'm automatically assuming that you're untrustworthy. If you're both I'm also automatically assuming that you also think you're better than everyone else. This comes from childhood associations reinforced by an initial few (very) bad dating experiences.
Now that first one is on the way out, as assumptions go. Even though it didn't end well I had associations with the whitest boy I'd ever talked to a few years ago, who was also the smartest person I'd ever met. I didn't realise how strong my bias was until meeting him and being continually surprised at his brains. So in the years since I've made more of a conscious effort to look past my knee-jerk assumptions and give you whiteys a chance. Heh. If I meet you on the bus, I'm still going to probably assume you're brainless and shallow, one good conversation can change my mind, though it's entirely not your responsibility to change my mind, they're my pre-determined assumptions and not your fault.
The point of this ramble is my second assumption, which sometimes lives with the first so it didn't seem proper to leave the first out.
Assumption number two: guys like this. For one I can't recall EVER finding a guy that muscley, at all attractive. *uck* I have no good assumptions about a guy like this, especially a chubby chaser guy like this. I get okcupid mails from guys like this more frequently than any other type. Now I'm not hating on ALL chubby chasers (how else would I ever get laid? srsly), but in the case of guys like this I think it's some sort of domination thing, that he thinks he's god's gift and chubby girls will obviously be so amazed that he's even talking to him that they'll fall all over his dick and do his every bidding. Probably they're just insecure really, I'd guess.
Now I'm not basing my assumptions entirely on his profile, though I'd have NEVER clicked on him to look after seeing him in thumbnail. He sent me an okcupid mail. In which he announced his intention to continue bothering me until I finally agree to go out to drinks with him, instead of periods he uses two commas which are apparently his idea of ellipses. Like,,so. And this apparently was his idea of a compliment: "pretty girls like you who are crazy nerotic gotta have something goin on!"[sic] "Something goin on" = "I'm positive will sleep with me."
In conclusion Once I already know and like you, get as fat or skinny as you like and it won't seriously effect my opinion of you, morph into Aryan poster boy looks for all I care. Once you're in, you're in, pretty much.
As for people I've not met yet, I apologise in advance, to any blond hair/blue eyed, full of crazy muscles, guys, who are actually awesome and fun and nice, and not THAT GUY. I probably won't give you the time of day.
I hate "good looking" whitey, apparently.
I prefer real, flawed, people.
It's unfair of me to make sweeping assumptions based upon physical appearance,
but I'm willing to bet everyone does, just not usually admitted.
If you're VERY white, I don't mean skin colour necessarily, I'm very pale but don't consider myself whitewhite. I mean light eyes and (naturally)light hair. If you're naturally blonde, I'm automatically assuming that you're stupid. Especially if you're a guy. If you have very light eyes I'm automatically assuming that you're untrustworthy. If you're both I'm also automatically assuming that you also think you're better than everyone else. This comes from childhood associations reinforced by an initial few (very) bad dating experiences.
Now that first one is on the way out, as assumptions go. Even though it didn't end well I had associations with the whitest boy I'd ever talked to a few years ago, who was also the smartest person I'd ever met. I didn't realise how strong my bias was until meeting him and being continually surprised at his brains. So in the years since I've made more of a conscious effort to look past my knee-jerk assumptions and give you whiteys a chance. Heh. If I meet you on the bus, I'm still going to probably assume you're brainless and shallow, one good conversation can change my mind, though it's entirely not your responsibility to change my mind, they're my pre-determined assumptions and not your fault.
The point of this ramble is my second assumption, which sometimes lives with the first so it didn't seem proper to leave the first out.
Assumption number two: guys like this. For one I can't recall EVER finding a guy that muscley, at all attractive. *uck* I have no good assumptions about a guy like this, especially a chubby chaser guy like this. I get okcupid mails from guys like this more frequently than any other type. Now I'm not hating on ALL chubby chasers (how else would I ever get laid? srsly), but in the case of guys like this I think it's some sort of domination thing, that he thinks he's god's gift and chubby girls will obviously be so amazed that he's even talking to him that they'll fall all over his dick and do his every bidding. Probably they're just insecure really, I'd guess.
Now I'm not basing my assumptions entirely on his profile, though I'd have NEVER clicked on him to look after seeing him in thumbnail. He sent me an okcupid mail. In which he announced his intention to continue bothering me until I finally agree to go out to drinks with him, instead of periods he uses two commas which are apparently his idea of ellipses. Like,,so. And this apparently was his idea of a compliment: "pretty girls like you who are crazy nerotic gotta have something goin on!"[sic] "Something goin on" = "I'm positive will sleep with me."
In conclusion Once I already know and like you, get as fat or skinny as you like and it won't seriously effect my opinion of you, morph into Aryan poster boy looks for all I care. Once you're in, you're in, pretty much.
As for people I've not met yet, I apologise in advance, to any blond hair/blue eyed, full of crazy muscles, guys, who are actually awesome and fun and nice, and not THAT GUY. I probably won't give you the time of day.
I hate "good looking" whitey, apparently.
I prefer real, flawed, people.
It's unfair of me to make sweeping assumptions based upon physical appearance,
but I'm willing to bet everyone does, just not usually admitted.
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Date: 2008-04-17 02:36 am (UTC)IT'SATRAP!
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Date: 2008-04-17 05:10 am (UTC)Hrm, suit jackets, rock tees, and dreads.... No wonder I like Screaming Mechanical Brain' so much... http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewPicture&friendID=1605925&albumId=356582
I think John is a pretty cool guy and he doesn't afraid of anything.
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Date: 2008-04-17 05:11 am (UTC)