daydreaming of shelves

it's house tidying time, i'm cleaning our bedroom, both of us have way too much stuff
him: books, comics, mags, paint, miniatures
me: books, random nicknacks, growing assortment of stuffed animals from kal

i want to build shelves on the walls on either side of the bed
yes

wow, uhm, sad

like i said below, cleaning night, in sitting down to take a rest and procrastinating i went to ana's guest bbs and i discover several strings about the guy and his concepts of men being oppressed that had posted on her livejournal

i do not consider myself feminist by any defininition nor particulary strong even if i'm very independant .. but i can think of no other phrase then "shocked and saddened" at her post, women still think like this? i know PEOPLE can be scary but i don't tend to think: oh no! i have to be careful or a man with RAPE ME!, strike that, i don't think i've EVER thought that

wait.. if this is a war do we get to shoot men on sight?

Posted by ANA on November 02, 2000 at 10:37:00:

In Reply to: More pennies... posted by Ms Fledermaus on November 02, 2000 at 09:28:14:

fuck ya! right on!

hell, WAKE UP there is a WAR AGAINST WOMEN EVERYDAY!!!!
and women ARE on the frontlines of this war EVERYDAY.

when i leave my house i literally have 2 psyche myself up..watch where i go, carry mace and sometimes a gun, and a camera 2 document the shit that happens around me...and i have to get inside before dark, because if i stay out there after dark "it's open season". and what that means is that if i get raped when it's dark outside...i am just stupid. because i should know better than to go out after dark.

IF......

..you expect to be victimized, you will always be a victim

..you expect people to oppress you, you will always be oppressed

..you expect the person you date to mistreat you, you doom yourself to a life of bad relationships and abuse(with a few exceptions)

no this is not "look at how she was dressed! she was asking for it"

this is:
you create your own reality
this does not mean the abuse and oppression is your fault
this however does mean you have the power to keep it from happening

it's like animals in the wild that sense FEAR

if you expect bad things, then bad things are likely to be attracted to you