and so ends a generation

it looks like i will be flying to oregon soon for my grandmother's memorial.
they've given her less than a month
all the children are up there, planning the memorial.

the family fortune is already being divided.
grandma signed everything over to the next trustee in line, curtis' sister marti.

so over thanksgiving they're getting together with the lawyers and the accountants and figuring how things will be divided.
i believe my father is going to get most of the property.
my brother and i both wouldn't mind of some of the liquid assets trickle down to us so we can pay off some debts.
but we're not holding our (collective) breath

so far all the siblings are getting along but they have yet to get down to the actual division of the family fortune.
at my grandfather's memorial the main accountant led us to believe the estate was worth around 10 million
he exaggerated.
it's quite a chunk but no where near that much.
we do, however, know what the estate is worth now, but i don't think that's any of livejournal's business.

and once again, i feel odd that i'm not upset.
i worry about curtis being upset.
but she wasn't a very nice woman, especially to the black sheep grandchildren
wasn't particularly nice to her own children a lot either.

curtis told me they have decided to limit the 'telling stories about the person' part of the memorial
as well, there likely isn't as many good stories as there were about grandpa.
=(
the situation is sad, and i don't think i'd be as upset as i could be if i WAS attached to her.
it's her time, really.
the cancer has returned and become inoperable, chemo and other treatments would kill her before even getting near to do anything to the cancer. they've got her on morphine and such which is relieving quite a bit of the pain. and she's still fairly lucid.
her birthday is dec 13th i think, somewhere around there, they're hoping she'll make it to her birthday.
the goal is to keep her as comfortable and pain-free as possible, and try to spend as much quality time with her children as possible.

i'm not looking forward to explaining my schedule change request for this.
people are going to be all comforting.
which is not nessisairy
oh well, must be got through.

well.....

sometimes i'm friends with the word yet.
talking to me about not being able to talk to me
is a step in the right direction

more that's been said or done to date.
so now there's a mediator,
so telling me things through someone is
well, still telling me i guess.

i feel like i'm watching someone else from the outside right now.
imnotinmerightnowpleaseleaveamsgandillcallyoubackbeep